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As with most abusers, they are in denial over      their own abuse. They may use the excuses:      

  • I needed to have some space
  • I thought you needed some space
  • I was feeling depressed and didn’t want to drag   you down with me
  • I thought we both need a cooling off period   
  • I felt threatened/insulted/hurt and reacted   with fear and isolation
  • I just needed some time alone to think
  • I didn’t want to fight
  • You told me to leave you alone
  • Problems from my past came up and I needed to   sort them out       

Of course these excuses are just one more way      for the abusers to blame somebody or something else for his abuse.